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Kids, Creation and Purple Crayons


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“Hi honey, how was your day?” This is a phrase spoken from parent to child every day in millions of homes all over the world. It’s a warm way to connect and ask your family about their lives. It’s common and comforting. It also, however, demonstrates that we can be creatures of mindless habit and unquestioned mindset.

Connection is important in families, but so is demonstrating and teaching empowerment. The question, “How was your day?” is often responded to with a laundry list of complaints of things your child didn’t like- or even the dreaded “Fine.”  You may find that without trying to, you’re habituating a call-and-response that is more familiar than it is useful. You may be opening the same stinky can of worms day after day.

This habitual question also reinforces the idea that the world happens to us. When we repeatedly ask this dead-end question, we miss the opportunity to create an empowering narrative instead.

I am your conversation gal and it’s my passion to teach you the subtle shifts that language can make. Asking open-ended questions that empower the answerer will wake up your kid’s brain and shake you out of mindless habits. You can use language as a source of power.

I advocate for another dinnertime question to throw some power into the mix.

Try this: “What did you create today, honey?”

 
I know!  It sounds weird, new-agey, and you are probably rolling your eyes at me right now for even suggesting it!  But I firmly believe that we are all creators of our own stories. Asking someone what they created flicks the switch and makes one instantly aware of the possibility for creation.

This question communicates that we have responsibility for the outcomes in our lives. The question itself provides a perspective. Asking, “What did you create today?” not only reminds me to tap into my own creative power, but it demonstrates that I think this way every day.  And voilà, the switch is flipped from victim to co-creator.

One of my favorite books that reinforces this theme is Harold and the Purple Crayon.  This endearing story about a boy who draws and creates the world around him is magical and inspiring. If you’re not familiar with the story, you can check it out here. Harold literally makes his world by drawing pictures he can step into.  He takes out his crayon and manifests the exciting world he wants to see.

Harold

We can inspire the same creative approach with the questions we ask our kids. In addition to asking the questions the end of the day, try starting your day with, “Sweetie, what are you going to create today?” In this way, you put the purple crayon into your child’s hands, and send them off to draw the lines they can play out.

Please comment below. I’d love to know what you and your kids are creating!

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3 Comments
  • Jules L.
    Posted at 01:18h, 14 October Reply

    I love this positive suggestion. . Thank you.

  • Dawn Falite
    Posted at 15:37h, 14 October Reply

    Great idea! It’s all about empowering your kids to see things differently, right?

  • Kisha Patterson
    Posted at 02:03h, 08 November Reply

    Why stop with children, maybe we should ask our friends, families and spouses this as well!

    I love this idea!

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